Let’s talk about why coercive control is often called intimate terrorism. Now control can be annoying, but coercive control is on a whole other level. It’s not just being bossy. It’s creating an atmosphere of terror using threats and punishments. If you don’t comply the coercive controller makes you pay, often in ways designed just for you. They use intimate knowledge they have gathered against you. They customize their threats using your fears, secrets and harming what’s most important to you.

What is coercive control and why is it hard to identify and escape?

So what’s another way that a coercive controller might deceptively reframe a healthy boundary as “abuse” or “control”? Well let’s say she’s trying to address a problematic behavior, like substance abuse, failing to bring in an income or infidelity. He might reframe this as trying to “control his life” or that she “doesn’t trust him.” But addressing mutual agreements, mutual respect and mutual well-being is NOT coercive control! #boundaries #coercivecontroller #coercivecontrol | End Coercive Cont

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